Why Some People Are Shy While Others Are Not?
We live in a time where technology has decreased the distance between people in ease of communication, to the point that it is somehow considered as a necessity. However we generalise that everyone is just as easy to communicate or be a part of what is going on around them because everyone is different when it comes to such, some people are like an open book, and some are impenetrable.
And in most cases, you can’t blame the person, for being a people’s person is not easy as it seems, it has its own burdens, which usually people choose not to see. And not everyone has the time or patience to deal with so much at once, so they end up living in an environment that they are keen to live in, a world that they know each bit about.
Some people are born as people’s person, and some like their solitude. It is just as some are introvert and some extrovert. Some people love the attention that they get, and then there are some, who try to stay out of limelight, just as much as they can. Neither of this is bad, it all boils down to internal choice of a person.
However, shyness is something that can be identified in both introverts and extroverts. So while in case of introverts it might seem a bit natural since being comfortable around less people makes them inexperienced to the crowd and the attention., even the most experienced extroverts can be shy when it comes to themselves, they’ll be having the conversation with utmost ease, but move the conversation towards them and they’ll deflect it onto something else.
Shy people are not different or something less, they just need more time to open up when it comes to themselves, to trust a person, and that is not a bad thing at all. We live in such fast paced times, that we fail to realise that the person who may have a lot of worthwhile things to say, or do, is just the person we stop communicating with because they require you to go an extra mile for them.
We forget that everyone doesn’t relish the same things as us, and for them to try being just like us, we have to go an extra mile for them, even if they are resistant to, to understand them better and to gain from them, for no good thing came without efforts.
One reason of being shy can also be related to someone’s childhood, which makes them stay away from attention, so when they get attention, they are puzzled with what to do, it’s like a question exam that they haven’t prepared for. They may have all the attention, but they won’t know what to do with it. And hence they hesitate, to hold up a conversation based upon them, or to hog the limelight. In similar cases, a person who is well versed in such experiences will be at ease, for that is what is important for them.
Shyness is something a person can overcome, slowly and with much efforts, efforts which will be invisible to anyone else apart from them, which is why it is said that you should never judge a person, for you never know the kind of internal turmoil that person maybe in. Being shy and overcoming it, also has an advantage, you end up understanding the people facing the same situation with more ease and helping them with it, which helps you further your experiences.